Even the most well-intentioned and well-planned career moves can go array. Here are 10 tips on how to deal with career and professional disappointment.
- Realize that it wasn't meant to be, at least not right now.
There is a reason that you didn't get the new job or promotion. It might be that the timing wasn't right, or it could be that there is something bigger and better out there for you. It might seem to be a big deal right now, but it won't always be that way.
- Meet with people you admire professionally or a mentor and discuss ways in which you may be able to rectify the situation.
Chances are that there really isn't all that much you could have done differently. If there is, someone you respect and trust should be able to help point it out. If not, he or she can help to reassure you that you were indeed a victim of circumstance.
- Focus on moving forward, maybe in a new direction.
There are times in which professional or career disappointment can really be a wake-up. Are you truly doing what you should be doing? Is there some dream that you'd like to pursue? The important thing is that you keep moving forward, even if it might be in a new direction.
- Reevaluate as to whether or not it would have been the right move.
You might be in the right profession, but the career move that didn't pan out might have been a mistake. Before you try to achieve the same goal once again, take some time to ensure that it will be the right move for you.
- Don't let anyone cause you to lose your belief in yourself.
Things can get ugly, especially if you leave your job or are forced out. No matter what you do, do not let anyone cause you to lose your belief in yourself. No one should have that control over you.
- Use it as an opportunity to pursue your dreams.
This just might be the wakeup call that you need to finally go ahead and pursue your dreams. You don't want to regret never having pursued your passion when you are no longer able to do so.
- Be thankful for what you do have and what you have accomplished.
Take this opportunity to take stock of what you have accomplished thus far and what you do have in your life. You might be surprised at how much you have to be thankful for, even if you are dealing with disappointment.
- Realize that things will get better.
Things won't be bad forever. They are bound to get better, and there will be bigger, better opportunities out there for you. This can get old after awhile, but it is true. You just have to be patient.
- Learn from your mistakes.
If you did do something to cause the setback, take the opportunity to learn from your mistakes. You can then move on to bigger and better things.
- Realize that failure isn't permanent.
If you are getting down on yourself and feeling as though you are now a failure, realize that even if you did fail in the eyes of the worlds, failure isn't permanent. There is no reason why you won't eventually find success.